As the title may suggest I am not a fan of the ageing process and all that comes with it. We spend so much time as kids wanting to be an adult and we spend near enough all of adulthood wishing we were kids again.
It’s difficult to get the balance right there is so much changing and trust me the responsibility is not all welcomed.
I think the biggest change for me was my friends. I was never a popular kid at school but I always had friends around me. As I got older my friendships changed they were more of a transitional thing than a permanent one. Finding that best friend when you are older is rather difficult.
When you are a kid having a best friend seems normal that ultimate friend who is like your sister. But as you get older and life gets in the way it changes from that innocent playground friendship.
I think what surprised me most was how easily you become two separate people. My best friend and I did everything together and our friendship lasted all through uni until it all changed. Having the stress of relationships, work and family made it difficult to make time for each other. We grew apart and starting becoming our own people but with separate lives and friendships. It seemed as we were only using the label of ‘best friends’ to prove everyone wrong.
It’s very strange not being a part of someone’s life when you used to spend every minute together. How easy it was to walk away from a friendship that had lasted years was what scared me the most.
I must admit that the one thing I have learnt from my ever changing friendship groups is that trying to label yourself as a ‘best friend’ is one way to see a friendship fail. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and surrounding yourself with people who will grow with you is never a bad thing.
Now I have more friends than I have ever had before. I hardly see them but when I do it feels right. We have no pressure in seeing each other every minute of our life or living like sisters. We have different experiences and that’s ok as we teach each other how to handle that situation if it ever comes back up again.
You have to be careful not to feel the need to label everything. Let things grow naturally and take it as it comes. Am I bitter that my former best friend and me have gone our separate paths, No it just shows how I have changed as I grow and nothing stays the same forever.