I guess this is another advice post on how to help you handle the big scary world.
I am at a transitional stage of my life and the truth is I am terrified!
We spend so long wishing we were grown ups as children we forget the other stuff that comes with it. I am at a point in my life where I am experiencing a lot of first. First house, first holiday, first job and starting a career. It is so scary to think that in a blink of an eye I have gone from being a naïve teenager to an adult.
I have heard the trick is not to panic but someone told me that a little too late.
But even though it is terrifying it is exciting. I guess it’s just another learning phase of our life just this time it is outside the classroom. So here is some helpful tips on how to cope in the big bad world.
Tip 1 – Don’t panic
I know clichéd but it is true the best thing to do is think about things logically these are big steps you are taking best not be a mess when you taking them.
Stay calm and think things through, push yourself but don’t be stupid, make sure you have back up plans. Remember one thing your life is going to change and you will have to sacrifice some of the things. Don’t worry to much in the long run you have got this!
Tip 2 – Don’t do everything on your own
I know that you are dying to be independent but it is very easy to get lost in everything. You need someone to keep you grounded and make sure you don’t go running away with yourself.
It’s also beneficial if you need to rant, this is a stressful time and everything is changing you need to have release somewhere. Remember everyone has had to do this at some point in their lives so there are people with the answers to some of your questions even the stupid ones. Just make sure you ask away, don’t make the mistake of thinking you can take on the world on your own.
Tip 3 – Embrace it!
This is exciting! Don’t let all the bad stuff weigh you down.
It will be scary but sometimes pushing your boundaries is for the best. This is how you are shaped as person and find out your true strengths. This is a big thing never forget that.
For those of you who have already been through this stage in your life I take my hat off to you. You did well!
For those of you yet to get to this stage don’t worry your time will come, it’s a big change but you will succeed!
As the title may suggest I am not a fan of the ageing process and all that comes with it. We spend so much time as kids wanting to be an adult and we spend near enough all of adulthood wishing we were kids again.
It’s difficult to get the balance right there is so much changing and trust me the responsibility is not all welcomed.
I think the biggest change for me was my friends. I was never a popular kid at school but I always had friends around me. As I got older my friendships changed they were more of a transitional thing than a permanent one. Finding that best friend when you are older is rather difficult.
When you are a kid having a best friend seems normal that ultimate friend who is like your sister. But as you get older and life gets in the way it changes from that innocent playground friendship.
I think what surprised me most was how easily you become two separate people. My best friend and I did everything together and our friendship lasted all through uni until it all changed. Having the stress of relationships, work and family made it difficult to make time for each other. We grew apart and starting becoming our own people but with separate lives and friendships. It seemed as we were only using the label of ‘best friends’ to prove everyone wrong.
It’s very strange not being a part of someone’s life when you used to spend every minute together. How easy it was to walk away from a friendship that had lasted years was what scared me the most.
I must admit that the one thing I have learnt from my ever changing friendship groups is that trying to label yourself as a ‘best friend’ is one way to see a friendship fail. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and surrounding yourself with people who will grow with you is never a bad thing.
Now I have more friends than I have ever had before. I hardly see them but when I do it feels right. We have no pressure in seeing each other every minute of our life or living like sisters. We have different experiences and that’s ok as we teach each other how to handle that situation if it ever comes back up again.
You have to be careful not to feel the need to label everything. Let things grow naturally and take it as it comes. Am I bitter that my former best friend and me have gone our separate paths, No it just shows how I have changed as I grow and nothing stays the same forever.